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An elderly woman in front of you is driving 25 miles per hour as you rush to work. How do you react? Your child spills his drink all over your newly cleaned floor. How do you react? These and many other every day situtations are enough to get some people very angry. Yet others would be unfazed or react calmly. What is the difference between these two types of people and how can the angry reactor modify his behavior? Anger is a secondary emotion that commonly masks other more vulnerable emotions. Feelings like hurt, jealousy, guilt and sadness for some are more easily expressed through anger. Even if the emotion is unstated, it is often easier to feel angry at someone than acknowledge that they hurt your feelings. The problem with anger is that it often gets out of control. If expressed too aggresively it can hurt others and damage relationships. If unexpressed and held in, it can manifest itself physcially through headaches or other somatic symptoms. Also
unexpressed anger seems to feed itself and grow and at times may begin to feel like an obsession. So what should we do with our anger? Anger is a normal reaction to many events. It should be validated and recognized but in order to express it in a healthy way, it should be examined. Here are some questions to ask yourself when thinking about your anger. Is my feeling of anger proportionate to its trigger? In other words, do you get just as angry when your kids spill a drink as you do when they talk back to you? If so, you might think about what else is feeding your anger. What do you do when you are angry? Do you throw things, fume silently or attack others? Have relationships been effected by your anger? If there are negative consequences after an an anger filled event it might be worth examining the origins of your anger. What triggers my anger? Is it the little things that push you over the edge? I s there a feeling that triggers anger? For example, do you lash out when you begin to feel vulnerable or guilty. Understanding one’s tirggers is the first step in modifying behavior. How do I feel when I start to get angry? It is easier to calm down when feeling a little angry. If you can begin to notice how your body feels as you begin to get angry, you can use other techniques to calm yourself down before the anger accelerates. What works to calm me down? Pay attention to ways that have worked in the past. Some examples are listening to music, taking a walk or using humor. Anger is a common and complicated emotion. If your anger is negatively impacting important relationships in your life or you are using alcohol or drugs to calm yourself, seek professional help in examining the sources of your anger.
If you decide to make an appointment for an individual therapy session, here is what to expect. The initial meeting will primarily consist of taking a thorough history of the problem and any precipitating factors. I will then take a history of your family of origin, going as far back as you can recall. I will be looking for family patterns as well as birth order and history of mental illness, substance abuse and violence. I will ask questions about current relationships, work and social activities to get a clear picture of your life. Finally, we will mutually set goals for what you want to accomplish for therapy and when we will know therapy is finished. Individuals come to therapy for many different meetings. There may be a specific crisis that prompts a visit or a long standing issue that you would like to resolve. Some people come to therapy for personal growth or because they just don't feel their life is how they want it to be. Therapy can be a place to learn how to modify one's thinking, think of problems in different ways or just have someone objective to talk to. At times, individuals come to therapy to discuss problems in their marriage. As a general rule, this is less helpful than couples therapy unless there are issues of safety involved. If you are unhappy in your marriage yet want to stay married, I will encourage you to bring your spouse to sessions over time to work on the relationship together. This concept may also apply in other family situations. While the individual may be the focus of attention, it may be helpful at times to bring in other family members and I will discuss this with you if the need arises. As always the number of sessions depends on progress and readiness for change. Typically you will know when you are done and people frequently come for a series of sessions, take a break and return when they are ready to look at different issues or progress to another level.
Darlene is a therapist-in-training at the CTS Counseling Center and a life coach. She specializes in personal professional growth and development as well as lifestyle change. Please feel free to contact her for a complimentary coaching session and for information about the services she offers. Call Darlene today to experience the growth you've been seeking!!
I have been working with people in the context of their families, culture and social economic status for over 17 years. To do this I provide individual and family counseling, marital therapy and pre-marital counseling as well as divorce recovery in a safe, supportive enviroment. Common concerns you may experience include: depression, anxiety, difficulty sleeping (emotional issues), trouble adjusting to transitions such as aging, children as they reach adolescence, changes in relationships or work. If you are experiencing any of these issues, professional intervention is usually helpful. I have a great deal of experience with child development and parenting issues as well. Life Coaching Share Your Opinion. (0 posts)
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