Laurie B. Freeman - Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

More info... Laurie Freeman, LMFT (http://www.lauriebfreeman.com) is a licensed family therapist with a practice on the northside of Indianapolis, IN. She specializes in family and play therapy but also has extensive experience with couples and individual clients. Training includes a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy from the Christian Theological Seminary Training Center in Indianapolis. Laurie has also received additional training in play therapy and participates in ongoing play therapy supervision. She has worked for 5 years at the CTS Counseling Center Clinic in addition to her more recent private practice. Other counseling experience includes 2 years of volunteer work as a Guardian Ad Litem for Child Advocates in Indianapolis. Laurie is a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapist and is a member of the Association for Play Therapy. She has also volunteered for several community events including a panel on guilt for the Greater Indianapolis Jewish Federation and a parenting panel for Hadassah. Counseling is a second career for Laurie. Prior to this training she has worked in sales and sales management for Prentice Hall College and Macmillan Computer publishing. This earlier career provided much life experience to add to her formalized training. Personally, Laurie is married and the mother of two teenaged children which additionally provides a wealth of practical experience. Laurie publishes a quarterly newsletter which may be accessed on this site and can provide information on areas of specialization as well as provide a sense of Laurie's style and counseling orientation. Because I see children, I am often asked questions about parenting. Some are very specific, asking about how to handle a behavioral issue like anger or doing homework. Other times, the questions are more general and it feels like the parent is looking for my approval. Without actually asking the question, they are wondering, “Am I doing it right”, “Will my child be harmed because I work?” or here’s what Tommy or I did in response to this situation- “Are we normal?” It seems that our ideas of good parenting are shaped by many different influences. Of course , our parents’ ideas of parenting shape our own but things were so different when we were children that it is hard to compare. Men weren’t expected to be as involved, if they were involved at all and fewer women were in the workforce. Society shapes our ideas of what is expected now but messages may be mixed depending on one’s social or economic surroundings. At times, especially with middle class families, parenting feels like a competition. My child got into this school or plays this sport competitively or is in these extracirricullar activities. Grades and test scores become public know ledge and at times feel more like a reflection of the parents’ performance than the child. The above discussion doesn’t even address yet another complication. The parent who was poorly parented and knows they want to do things differently but does not have a close role model. How does one know the best way to parent? Assuming that there are no problems with physical, verbal or sexual abuse and your child is safe, here are some guidelines to assure a parent that they are doing it right. 1. There is no RIGHT way to do it. All parents do the best they can given their own stage of development.2. There is no PERFECT parent, nor should a parent try to be perfect. In fact, according to researcher D.W. Winnicott, it is imperative that we fail our children at times so that they develop resilience and skills to take care of themselves in the real world.3. What is important, according to Winnicott is that we be a GOOD ENOUGH parent. This means meeting the needs of the child enough so that they understand that in general, the world is a reliable place and that others can be trusted.4. This goal can be accomplished whether you work or stay home. A parent who is dissatisfied with their own situation will project this disatisfaction on to their children and won’t be as emotionally available.5. Be intentional about the values that you want to pass along to your children and model them in your life.6. Provide firm and consistent discipline. Children need their parents to be parents and not permissive friends.Be open to other’s way s of parenting and recognize that there is no one way of doing it. Follow your intuition and do the best you can. Darlene is in residency at the CTS Counseling Center and is a life coach. She specializes in personal professional growth and development as well as lifestyle change. Please feel free to contact her for a complimentary coaching session and for information about the services she offers. Call Darlene today to experience the growth you've been seeking!! In the 35 years I have worked with clients, I've learned that our lives can change instantly. Sudden death, life threatening diagnosis, accidents, job loss, marriage, or divorce can shake us at our inner core. I also know that conflicts in relationships can be devastating and confusing. I strive to provide a safe, caring, compassionate and professional environment for you to work and find solutions. Feel free to call for a brief telephone consultation (no charge) to determine if I'm the right person to help you with your concerns. Membership: Indiana Oncology Social Workers; National Association of Social Workers. Being There - Part OneAParenting7 min - Oct 22, 2006Attachment Parenting on 60 minutes. 22nd October 2006More info.... 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