Compliance made Easy

More info... As you read the following vignettes, see if they seem familiar: Pam and Tom’s ten-year-old son, Kyle, responds to all of their directives with an argument or complaint. They reason with him, trying to “get it into his head” that he needs to do what they ask. They explain the wisdom of their rationale and counter his arguments with their logic. These efforts are repeatedly ineffective, and the argument continues until they either explode in anger or give up. During the holiday break, there are many opportunities to read, one of my favorite hobbies. One of the books I chose was Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking. Joan writes of the year after her husband’s sudden death when she is also dealing with the serious illness of her only daughter. In addition to the topic of grief, Didion handles the lack of control we feel about the events that occur in our lives; made all the more potent in the illusion that at some point we did have control. Her description of the grieving process beautifully captures its non-linear, non-predictable nature. Ms. Didion is a highly educated published writer yet the denial and pain of the grief is illustrated by her unwillingness to give away John’s shoes after his death, “ in case he needs them.” Reading this account of grief, brings to mind all of the other things we grieve in our lives. Grief in this case is the loss of a mate through death but the feelings of grief may also occur with the loss of a relationship, such as a divorce or break up. It might also occur when we lose the idea of a relationship that we thought should have been a certain way but wasn’t, like a relationship with a parent or a sibling. The grief that occurs when we process these types of losses may not come on as suddenly as that of a death but may be processed in a similar manner.Didion gives a personal voice to the process and her book is as much a love story and tribute to her relationship with her husband as it is a study of her process. There is much to be heard in this book at many levels. This book uses an approach called cognitive behavioral therapy that has been proven to help with depression. The title is Mind Over Mood: Changing how you feel by Changing how you think by Greenburg and Padesky. The title is self explanatory. Reading about doing this is much easier than actually changing long standing thought patterns but if you can master the techniques, it can be life altering. Often clients use the book in the course of therapy as it is easier for someone else to notice our less than useful thought patterns. Darlene has been certified with the American Council on Exercise as a Lifestyle and Weight Management Consultant (LMWC) since 2001. She is a counseling intern at the CTS Counseling Center and is in the process of completing formal life coach training with an ICF accredited coaching training program (IPEC--Institute for Professional Empowerment Coaching). Call Darlene today to experience change and growth, to clarify, set and reach goals, to prioritize your values, and to experience change at last! Work through ruts and roadblocks to achieve success in your relationships, your profession, and your life as a whole. Collaborative coaching supports clients in developing abundant joy and satisfaction in their lives. My work is focused on:Individual and Couple's CoachingMarriage and Family CounselingPersonal GrowthProfessional DevelopmentEstablishing and Cultivating Community I am currently completing an internship at the CTS Counseling Center as required for a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. My background includes graduate studies in Industrial/Organizational Psychology at IUPUI and a B.S. degree in Social Psychology from the University of Oregon. Contact me through any of the ways listed for available appointments or for screening and consultation. All the best to you. I have been working with people in the context of their families, culture and social economic status for over 17 years. To do this I provide individual and family counseling, marital therapy and pre-marital counseling as well as divorce recovery in a safe, supportive enviroment. Common concerns you may experience include: depression, anxiety, difficulty sleeping (emotional issues), trouble adjusting to transitions such as aging, children as they reach adolescence, changes in relationships or work. If you are experiencing any of these issues, professional intervention is usually helpful. I have a great deal of experience with child development and parenting issues as well. Life Coaching Share Your Opinion. (0 posts)

 

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